Jan 30 2010
Alone and Lonely
Oh. I guess I just deleted everything I had just written. That’s ok. I hadn’t written anything of value.
I am feeling sad and lonely today. Are you allowed to put your honest thoughts and feelings in these blogs. Why not. Accept of course, I’ve got a link to my website. If you don’t have an audience, you can more easily be yourself. you don’t have to worry about what you have to say because you’re the only one reading it. I might remove the link from my website. To remain obscure until the end of time. To have the freedom to say whatever you are thinking or feeling with absolutely no chance of anyone anywhere seeing it. It’s a shame you have to feel that way. There’s no where where you’re 100% safe to speak it. It makes things confusing. Anyway, I did delete the link from my website. So that’s one step safer. I’m going to write it. I have a conscious conflict and it never stops being that way. The choices you make at those critical junctures of your life. Well, first of all, you think you have a choice at the time and so if you think you’ve made a wrong choice, it can haunt you for an eternity. But when you look closely at it and all the circumstances behind it, you see that you didn’t really have a choice. Doors close down. And other doors open. It’s true that whether you go through them is your choice. But sometimes what’s waiting for you if you don’t go through them is far more daunting that the going through them. It’s also true that you don’t really know what thing might have come your way if you had decided not to take that door. I guess that’s what keeps you chained: your belief that if you had remained true, that more truth would have come to you. Except, of course, you did that before and it didn’t. In fact, it went the other way. And having been let down at that level, I went the other way. I’ve now spent a life time trying to get back. I’ve discarded all the things in my past that influenced/conditioned me to take the door I did. And while many things have changed for the good, half the time, I’m not feeling like my true self. There are very few people in my environment that really support my true self. So, it’s kind of hard for me to remember me too when there is next to no reflection of who I really am, here.
It’s a lonely and alone feeling that. The people that you used to know that appreciated your true self and even encouraged it, they’ve gone through different doors too and most of the time, they don’t recognize themselves, and I don’t recognize them either. And when I get one of my new and exciting ideas, they sound just like everybody else. They don’t get it. They don’t encourage it. They don’t see me.
And when you get the chance to re-choose or choose another way but you’ve got all these patterns built and you’re familiar with, it’s still difficult to do the right thing.
I guess that’s how I feel now. It’s not his truth. That choice is about money and prestige, not about finding his true self. That’s what I think anyway. But maybe he thinks the same thing. That I’m not as supportive as he’d like me to be. That it is his true self and I can’t see it. But it feels far away and distant to me. And that makes me feel alone and lonely too.